The Country is beautiful, too bad about the people.

   I never really had trouble making friends anywhere, that was till I moved here. Paderborn is a tough nut to crack. The area really is picturesque, but the people who live here are really hard to get to know. I have taken to posting in a couple of groups here in Paderborn that I would like to get to know a few cool people. Not a soul has responded to my posts.  Its not like we are freaks or anything it is just really a cold environment here. That is Paderborn. They have their friends that they grew up with or went to college with.
   My wife who is usually right said that I am just wasting my time. She said she has tried posting and responding to adds and pointed out that it always ends badly. My wife answered a couple of posts from women looking for friends to no avail. Me being somewhat of an optimist decided to go ahead and see if she was wrong.
 One of the posts that my wife answered received the reply that the originator has no time for friendships. The thought is then why post that you are looking for friends. Seems like a rational thought.
"Hello. I am looking for some people to hang out with, but I don't have time and wont make any effort beyond posting that I would like some friends." When I heard this one I was floored.
 Another we met with was just an emotional wreck and has no friends because she doesn't know what it even means to be one. It started out ok. We were invited over and listened to her talk about how bad everything is for her. We pretended that her completely ill disciplined children were ok. We even invited her around. I got on fine with her husband. It just was that this woman never really wanted to leave her house or call anyone. I saw her not too long ago and she asked why we don't come around anymore. I couldn't tell her it was because she never put any effort into the friendship, but I just said, "Call us up sometime. We would love to visit." She never called.
  A really cool Russian guy who bothered to talk to me while I was working as an announcer started listing off the things we should do together here in Paderborn. I said, "Great lets do it then!" gave him my contact info and thought he'd give me a call. Nope.
  Another German aquaintence said he wanted me to come to his birthday party but forgot to invite me. Not like I really hear from him so often anyways.
    I have really good friends in California and everyday I think about going back and not dealing with this shit here. It is really sad when I cant make any contacts here. The countryside is really beautiful but when the people are so closed, it makes it feel like it isn't worth the while.